•Assuming things are obvious especially triggers to problems and the solutions. I tend to forget just because something is obvious to me doesn't mean in reality it is.
Being aware that majority of people are traditionalists and from the SJ crew really helps. Most people take in information and value the information which can be verified by their senses. This awareness is essential as not everyone uses the same preference when taking in information hence their understanding and perspective will differ. If we want to communicate effectively it is crucial we first understand the other person's perspective and their communication style.
• Distraction. I am so easily distracted I have recently started playing online games on Lumosity to improve my concentration. Just last week I started searching for jobs online and came across a job as a Psychotherapist in HMP but a few minutes later I decided (alongside my Enfp friend) pretending we were both Private Detectives for hire to see what responce we would get was an interesting experiment. So we spent a few minutes creating a 'career promoting' message and even a new email account for 'clients'. It is only now as I type this that I have remembered neither of us has even checked the email account. What bad customer service. An hour after this I found myself researching serial killers and reading into the Yorkshire Ripper (Peter Sutcliffe).
• Getting involved in far too many projects, spreading myself very thin and then getting bored once I have to deal with the details and lengthy process. I must admit though that although I often have lots of projects running side by side creating pressure I secretly love the thrill of racing against time to get things done. Its a challenge in itself. :)
• Under estimating time needed to reach a deadline. I take advantage knowing I work best under pressure however, my estimation of time is poor. I find myself pacing up and down the room hours before an assignment / speech deadline; as I talk out loud to myself -often switching from my tutor voice to my coach voice. I can not list the number of times I have handed in an assignment and felt guilty for writing it so last minute.com and submitting a draft version.
• Never completing a non fiction or a magazine albeit telling myself I will sit down with a cuppa and read. Never happens. Yet it never stops me from picking up the next magazine edition. Although I have a bookshelf and storage boxes full of books and towers piled up (giving the impression I am a bookholic) the reality is apart from a handful of non fiction books I have not completed any yet.
• Believing I can handle anything and that everything will always turn out fine (highly optimistic) . I rely a lot and take pride in my adaptability. I also blame this strength for being the reason I find myself watching a Jason Statham movie hours before a deadline is due.
• Getting bored. Even when I attend self selected courses and activities it is standard for me to feel bored rather quick. Having a routine that is the same daily bores me. A career where I am not using creativity, dealing with complex issues/theories or atleast problem solving is hard for me to sustain. I left years of teaching as I found it too structured and predictable. The meetings, emails and paperwork frustrated me. I did enjoy delivering the lessons and (strangely) even dealing with challenging teenagers. (Eek, a challenge.) I finally decided to start delivering workshopos and talks in order to inspire people in a creative and self managed manner. I love it.
Being able to predict most of the following week is boring too. I like leaving slots through out the week to do whatever takes my fancy when the moment arrives. The thought of planning every day, week and month is terrifying. What's there to enjoy if all is so predictable. The unexpected brings with it surprises, even challenges and thrills. :)
Reading about celebrities is boring. Shopping with friends is boring (infact I rarely shop with friends). Having a normal 'small talk' conversation is boring.
• Remaining ever so calm even when I receive a warning letter from a debt company because I kept postponing to pay my phone bill. They inform me if I dont pay I will be taken to court. Instead of quickly making a call to pay I check to see what deadline they have given me. 5 working days? That's alright. Doubt I'll be going court. I'll make the call next week. No worry.
Believing I can talk my way out of anything.
• My ears pricking up at the sound of the word 'challenge'. It still puzzles me as to why many people seem to prefer the predictable and aren't always smiling at the thought of taking on a challenge. For me its not just an opportunity to prove I can take on a challenge, it also contributes to my competency and self development.
